Marshall Segal has a helpful article out today entitled: Date Differently This Year: Four Resolutions for Better Relationships. Here his four resolutions:
1. Above all else, I will look for Jesus.
“If you resolve to change nothing else about your patterns in relationships, resolve to make Jesus the most important thing in your dating…Before you entrust your heart to someone else, resolve to love Jesus with all your heart. Before you let yourself daydream about potential futures with him or her, resolve to love Jesus with all your mind.”
2. I will grow where I have failed before.
“One reason we fail in the same ways year after year is that we fail to admit and address our failures. If you have a sexual past or a trail of mistakes behind you, you need to know there is nowhere safer to deal with your failures than in Christ…”
3. I will pursue clarity, and postpone intimacy.
“Date for something far more satisfying than physical and emotional intimacy. Date for a deeper purpose…”
4. I will ask God for help.
“The most important change in your love life may not be between you and your significant other, but between you and God…”
If these thoughts hit you, you might want to read the whole thing.